Build self confidence with a positive mental attitude
Life will never be all plain sailing. Indeed, hardship, trials and tribulations are part and parcel of our lives. Encountering difficulty is not a bad thing, what matters is the approach we take to deal with it. A positive frame of mind is important for so many reasons. Positive thinking is proven to raise performance in productivity and quality. We are typically more confident and do better when we are feeling good and well.
There are biological explanations of this. A positive frame of mind is due to enhanced levels of neuro transmitters like serotonin that regulate the performance abilities of the mind. The knock effects of a positive frame of mind also include enhanced health not only better mental health but better in the physical sense aswell. This is due to the increase to the immune system that a positive frame of mind can give you.
The reverse is also true, when we are depressed we are a lot more liable to contracting other diseases and mental health issues. Our interaction with others degrade, we start to think irrationally and our confidents can drop. In a nutshell this is a frame of mind that is best to avoid at all costs. Feeling depressed ever so often is not uncommon but how we choose to deal with a problem comes from our state of mind.
A positive mental attitude is also about giving you a can do attitude. Those that think positively are far more likely to see challenges rather than problems or possibilities instead of difficulties. For example, entrepreneurs who are successful often are because they are able to spot opportunities for progress in a market which other people only see problems in. The positive mental attitude of a successful individual means that opportunity becomes a reality; because they also have the drive and motivation to ensure success and make their dream come true. So as you can see there is much to be gained from a positive mental attitude. The problem for a lot of people is in developing one in the first place.
Developing a positive frame of mind is not some new aged fad. For hundreds of years religious men and scholars alike searched for and developed techniques to harness an inner tranquility. While this may have begun to make mankind closer to god the essence of this idea is just as relevant today. That a positive frame of mind makes us closer to the divine while a negative frame of mind can only steer us in to ways of being that are a detriment to our lives. Monks realised this long ago which is why they devote themselves to a life of abstinence and mental and spiritual fulfilment.
One of the easiest ways to determine your frame of mind is to think about how you are with other people. A good way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you confident and open to meeting and talking with people? Or are you insular and afraid. Believe it or not one of the best ways to overcome a negative frame of mind is to change your mindset to the world around you and that means the people in it too. If you are usually uneasy around other people then try this experiment.
One night push yourself to strike up a conversation at random in a public place. Do not be concerned about how you look or appear or what you discuss. A reference in regards to the weather or anything will do. Just try it and note how you feel afterwards.
You see, the way you are with other people will affect the opportunities you get presented. Consider it like this who is the most likely to get a job between two people of equal ability and knowledge except for one difference, One is uptight and uncomforable with others and the other is laid back and comfortable with people. If I was the boss I know which one I would pick for the Job.
Are you feeling down and unable to shift that negative frame of mind? If so check out Quentin’s free seminar on Overcoming social anxiety.